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Self-Sabotage: Getting in Your Own Way, Just Before Reaching the Goal

ONLINE PSYCHOLOGICAL COUNSELING By Aris Haegermann 3 min read September 2026

Those who trip themselves up just before reaching their goal often pursue two goals at once: a conscious one and a hidden one. In the end, the application stays unsent. Out of nowhere, an argument breaks out the evening before the exam. The relationship becomes difficult exactly when it gets serious.

What the Hidden Goal Protects

The hidden goal can offer some protection: from envy, from the loss of a familiar role, from the fear that success comes at a price. That’s why sheer willpower is of little help here: the hidden part has good reasons, even if they aren’t visible at the moment, and at some point, the pattern was a solution to something. Whether this interpretation holds true becomes clear through one’s own experience. The solution often lies in precisely what one is currently struggling against: if the feeling the pattern protects against becomes bearable, the pattern may become unnecessary.

Understanding Protective Patterns

What your own pattern is protecting you from right now can be clarified together in counseling.

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