Some negative experiences won’t let us go. They don’t heal on their own. They burn themselves into images that pop up unexpectedly and into a body that remains constantly tense. Positive feelings can hardly find any room in this inner constriction. This is not a weakness, but the reaction of a nervous system that is stuck in a state of alarm.
In my experience, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is one of the most effective approaches in trauma therapy. The method uses eye movements to process distressing memories retrospectively. In my practice, I have often seen how this work brings about a fundamental change: What happened remains part of one’s own story, but it loses its power over one’s present experience.